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Obstacles to Happiness

Envy

Definitions
Listen to audio clip `T5'
Terrorism and envy
Listen to audio clip `T6"
Envy avoidance behavior

Terrorism

Sometimes the way we cope with terrorism in our own minds and the way we deal with it socially have the opposite effect we intend
Books

Psychics

This link is about protecting yourself against scam artists
Related definitions: independence rationality reason whim
Books

Duty?

A duty is an unchosen obligation. How could any such thing lead to happiness? Only our responsibility to be rational comes close.

Toleration?

Toleration is a slippery word. If irrational, it is an obstacle to happiness. But there is a context in which is it appropriate.

Compassion?

It is appropriate to help others under certain conditions. But why the need to let scoundrels off the moral hook in the name of "compassion"?

Poor Thinking Skills

Happiness requires that you are satisfied that your mind deals with people and events in a rational manner. But why must we think in a rational manner? Because if we don't, we will repeatedly fail to achieve our goals, the values we seek, the ability to honestly obtain the basic needs of life. Thinking Skills

Lack of Goals

Happiness requires that you choose, seek out and work to obtain only rational goals, values. Life depends upon our achieving our basic values so the less logical we are, the less likely we will consistantly and reliably obtain the basic needs of life. The purpose of following reason is to live. Valuing Skills

Lack of Romance

Books related to lack of romance

Lack of Safety

"The basic political principle of the Objectivist ethics is: no man may initiate the use of physical force against others. No man—or group or society or government—has the right to assume the role of a criminal and initiate the use of physical compulsion against any man. Men have the right to use physical force only in retaliation and only against those who initiate its use. The ethical principle involved is simple and clear-cut: it is the difference between murder and self-defense. A holdup man seeks to gain a value, wealth, by killing his victim; the victim does not grow richer by killing a holdup man. The principle is: no man may obtain any values from others by resorting to physical force." Ayn Rand on Force

The initiation of force might get you money but not happiness. Would you raise your son to be a bank robber? To spend his life looking over his shoulder, never safe, never relaxed, never happy?

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